The Real Secret to Handling The Rough Spots in Your Separation or Divorce!

The Real Secret to Handling The Rough Spots in Your Separation or Divorce!

If you’re tired of dealing with the ups and downs of your separation or divorce, you really to know about the critical emotional triggers in your separation or divorce and how to handle them effectively.

I will discuss more about these critical emotional triggers in this video.

Hi, my name is Thomas O’Malley.  I’m an experienced family lawyer in Durham Region and the GTA.

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Another common emotional trigger in a separation or divorce is that your ex-spouse scoops all the money from joint bank accounts and other sources of money leaving you high and dry.  Your spouse is certainly trying to control you and your situation.

What can you do about this?  You need to be proactive really to avoid this problem in the first place.  If you are concerned that your spouse will take all of the funds from joint bank accounts and leave you with no money, you might want to take your half of the funds so that you can use them as required.

You just have to realize that you have to account for these funds on your Financial Statement and the final Separation Agreement or court settlement.

You might also suspect that your spouse is hiding money and assets.  Try to make a copy of any records that show these assets and monies and give them to your family lawyer to use to make sure that your former spouse completes an accurate Financial Statement.

Another series of emotional triggers involve the separation and divorce process itself.

For example, it can be quite traumatic to go to your initial meeting with your family lawyer.  Your head in many cases will be spinning and you have a 1000 questions to ask your lawyer but you can’t remember just one question to ask them.

The key is that you have good rapport with your family lawyer.  Your family lawyer should make you feel comfortable in your meeting with them.  Your lawyer should definitely ask you key questions that brings out the most important issues in your situation. 

Then your lawyer should give specific advice on what you need to do to start protecting your family law rights now.

You should also write a list of questions to ask your family lawyer.  This will really reduce your anxiety and frustration.

The next real emotional trigger are divorce or family court paperwork.  When your spouse has your served with family court paperwork, they usually put in the worst allegations and claims against you.

It’s hard mentally to prepare for this situation.  You simply have to ignore it really.  You need to respond to any serious allegations in the paperwork. 

However, you usually do much better in front of a family court judge by taking the high road.  In other words, don’t get into the habit of making the same nasty allegations that your former spouse made against you.

You need to see the big picture and realize that your spouse is simply venting and trying to rattle your cage on purpose to make your angry and frustrated.

I often advise my clients to see past the petty allegations and concerns that their ex-spouse puts in their paperwork.  I tell them that I know that it’s certainly hard to do that.  However, I tell it’s not worth their peace of mind to worry about that nonsense.

I will discuss even more emotional triggers in the separation and divorce process in the next video.

If you have any questions about your separation, divorce or family law case and you would like our help, feel free to contact on my Facebook law office page, that’s O’Malley Family Law, or call me at 905-434-8837 and I’ll point in you in the right direction. 

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