Why Separation and Divorce is So Scary and What You Can Do About It in Ontario!
Let’s face it: The very thought of getting separated or divorced scares so many frustrated and anxious spouses.
That’s completely understandable and very common!
Hi, my name is Thomas O’Malley. I’m an experienced family lawyer in Durham Region and the GTA.
Here are a few reasons why so many spouses find separation and divorce so scary and what you can do about these issues:
1. Fear of the Unknown
You are simply not sure what will happen when you get separated or divorced. You certainly are not alone: most people getting separated or divorced don’t know either.
You have no idea what will happen to your children. You are really worried about dealing with a difficult and angry former spouse. That’s a big one!
You are worried about your finances. What will happen to your retirement savings? Can you retire when you would like to retire? Who knows? Everything is up in the air.
You can truly take control of your life. You take control by getting the knowledge and information you need to succeed in your separation and divorce and taking care of yourself.
You need to hire an experienced Ontario family lawyer to understand and protect your family law rights. Your lawyer can advise on you exactly what you need to do, such as negotiating a separation agreement with your former spouse or go to court if that’s necessary based on the facts of your situation.
You should get solid personal counselling to deal with the difficult emotional issues you face in your separation or divorce. Solid personal counselling can really help you survive your separation or divorce and help you move on with your life.
2. Dealing With All The Issues Once You Start Your Separation or Divorce
You are afraid of dealing with all of the difficult issues in your case. That’s again completely understandable.
Will your spouse pay you child support? What will happen to your pension? Where will you live after your separation or divorce is over?
You need to follow the tried-and-true approach of dealing with one important issue at a time. For example, start giving some careful thought to your living arrangements for you and your children. How often will the children spend time with you and also with your former spouse?
Then start figuring out a monthly budget for your expenses and costs to get a handle on your financial situation.
By tackling one matter at a time, you will make it through your separation and divorce successfully!
3. The Financial Issues
The money part of a separation or divorce can be overwhelming for many spouses.
How can you afford to pay both child support and spousal support to your ex-spouse? Will your ex-spouse pay you a sufficient amount of child support and spousal support in the first place?
How can you pay for a new home? What will happen to your RRSPs or pension?
Your family lawyer should be able to give some solid advice on the best approach to take for your situation based on the details of your case. They can give you specific advice on how to deal with the financial issues in your separation or divorce!
You should also meet with an experienced financial advisor so that you start planning your future!
If you have any questions about your separation, divorce or family law case and you would like our help, there’s a few ways to contact our office.
You can leave a message on my Facebook law office page, visit my website at www.canadiandivorcelegaladvice.com, or call me directly at 905-434-8837.
We would be happy to speak to you.
Oh, by the way, did you know you can protect your family law rights and get essential information on settling your family law issues with your former spouse with the daily indispensable family law advice and tips at my FREE Facebook group?
Click here to find out more: Durham Region Separation and Divorce Legal Support Group
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