Why “Winning” in Your Separation or Divorce is a Really Bad Idea!

Why “Winning” in Your Separation or Divorce is a Really Bad Idea!

Who doesn’t like the idea of “winning” in your separation or divorce?  It sounds like a great idea but is it really?

I will get to the heart of the matter in this video so that you have the best chance of success in your separation or divorce in Ontario.

Hi, my name is Thomas O’Malley.  I’m an experienced family lawyer in Durham Region and the GTA.

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Yes, everyone wants to “win” in their separation or divorce.  Surprisingly, that’s the wrong approach to take to get the best results in your family law case.

In fact, everyone is generally worse off in a separation or divorce.

Usually, you and your spouse will have a reduced standard of living after the end of your marriage or relationship since you now have two households to fund.  Two households are certainly more expensive to maintain than one household.

Your children usually have a difficult time dealing with their parents’ separation or divorce.  They feel and face instability in their lives with a change of residences and going to new schools in many cases.

The true sense of  “winning” in your separation or divorce means that you get a fair and reasonable settlement in family law case based on the facts of your case and the application of Ontario family law principles to your situation.

You need to the advice of an experienced Ontario family lawyer so that you truly understand what makes sense in your situation based on a family law point of view.

When you have a fair and reasonable settlement, you make sure, for example, you are getting reasonable amount of spousal support or you are paying no more spousal support than you are required to pay based on Ontario family law principles.

You make sure you get the right amount of parenting time or access to your children based on the facts of your situation.  In many cases today, each parent has the children for half of the time, such as a week-about schedule in which each parent has the children for one week on a rotating basis.

You need to have reasonable goals and then you can “win” in your separation or divorce with a fair and reasonable separation agreement or court settlement.

You should try to avoid court and first attempt to negotiate a separation agreement with your former spouse.

Only go to court when your spouse is taking an unreasonable position on a really important issue in your case.  You will find out relatively quickly whether your spouse is going to change their position on this issue or whether they are going to stick to that position.

Then you need a detailed discussion with your family lawyer to figure out whether it makes sense to go to family court now.

By understanding that what you really need is a fair and reasonable separation agreement or court settlement with your former spouse, you can approach your family law case much more successfully now.

If you have any questions about your separation, divorce or family law case and you would like our help, feel free to contact on my Facebook law office page, that’s O’Malley Family Law, or call me at 905-434-8837 and I’ll point in you in the right direction.

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