How to Reduce the Confusion and Frustration Your Kids Will Face When You Tell Them About Your Separation or Divorce!
Now matter what you do you will face a really tough time telling your children that you are getting separated or divorced.
However, you can certainly reduce the trauma of telling your children about this delicate situation by avoiding certain mistakes. I discussed three of these mistakes in the previous video.
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Here’s the next 3 big mistakes to avoid in telling your kids that you are getting separated or divorced:
4. Fighting Around Your Children
You certainly need to make sure you do not fight around your children.
Parental battles drastically instill fear, frustration and instability into your children.
Your children absolutely deserve the best lives you can offer them. Part of making sure your children have the best lives you can offer them is to make sure that you maintain stability in their lives by not fighting around them in any shape or form.
You need to keep arguments and bickering with your former spouse away from your kids. It’s that simple!
5. Treating Your Children as Your Confidantes and Friends
You cannot treat your children as confidantes and friends. Your job is to be the best parent you can be for your children.
When you treat them as confidantes and friends, you’ll inevitably have them take sides in your separation or divorce. This will, in most cases, simply backfire on you.
You put a serious emotional burden on your children to try to get them to support you emotionally by telling them that the other spouse caused the breakup of your relationship or marriage.
It takes two people to separate. Those two people are the parents. Everything surrounding the reason for the end of your relationship or marriage must stay with you and your former spouse.
Let your children be kids and act as a mature parent. Your kids will always remember this and you will keep a healthy and loving relationship with them now and in later years.
6. Don’t Use Your Children As Messengers or Spies
You must not use your children as messengers to give messages to the other parent. You need to communicate with the other parent directly about important issues in your children’s lives.
Don’t use your children as spies on what the other parent is doing. This put tremendous pressure on your kids and will simply lead them to resenting you for trying to get them to do this.
When you avoid these 6 big mistakes that I have discussed in telling your children about your separation or divorce, you will reduce the problems your children face significantly.
Always take the high road in dealing with your children and your former spouse. You just can’t go wrong doing that!
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