Successful Strategies To Deal With A High-Conflict Spouse in Your Separation or Divorce!
In another video, I discussed the problems with dealing with a high-conflict spouse in your separation or divorce.
Hi, my name is Thomas O’Malley. I’m an experienced family lawyer in Durham Region and the GTA.
Fortunately, you can really reduce the amount of problems you are facing with a high-conflict spouse when you use some specific strategies to deal with this difficult situation.
You actually want to take some time to listen to your high-conflict spouse. They have a great need to be heard since they believe that no one listens to them.
You can really reduce the drama and conflict when you really to your spouse with respect and empathy. Of course, never put yourself in any personal danger.
When you really listen to a high-conflict spouse, they will often calm down since they see that you are taking the time to understand their concerns and worries.
That does not in any mean that you agree with their position!
The manner in which you communicate with a high-conflict spouse can make all the difference in the work in dealing with your separation or divorce.
First, do not attack or make threats to your former spouse when they are doing that. This simply escalates the tension and conflict.
When a high-conflict spouse contacts you, make your response brief and friendly. Do not respond in the same manner whatsoever if your high-conflict spouse sends you a nasty, angry email or text message.
When you send any type of message to your former spouse, keep it to the fact. Just the facts! You don’t give any ammunition to your spouse when you simply give them facts and information.
The less you say in your communications with a high-conflict spouse, the better.
You should also be firm in your communications with a high-conflict spouse. However, simply be firm in a friendly way with a brief email or text message.
When you use these strategies, you can more easily navigate the difficult journey in your separation or divorce.
Your hard work will help pave the way for reaching a settlement with your spouse in the form of a separation agreement or a final settlement in court.
Also make sure, you maintain your self-worth and self-esteem. If your spouse’s abuse has beat you down, you might seriously consider some personal counselling.
Take some time to discuss this important issue with your family lawyer.
If you have any questions about your separation, divorce or family law case and you would like our help, there’s a few ways to contact our office. You can leave a message on my Facebook law office page, visit my website at www.canadiandivorcelegaladvice.com, or call me directly at 905-434-8837.
We would be happy to speak to you.
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