What are 6 Big Mistakes You Can Make in Telling Your Kids About Separation or Divorce in Ontario?
I don’t have to convince you that telling your kids about your separation or divorce is no easy job!
Who, in fact, wants that job?
Hi, my name is Thomas O’Malley. I’m an experienced family lawyer in Durham Region and the GTA.
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You need to avoid these 6 big mistakes in telling your children about your separation or divorce to make their lives a little easier during this really difficult time for everyone:
1. Bashing Your Ex-Spouse To Or Around Your Children
Your children are always put in the dangerous middle of things when parents end their marriage or relationship. Your children love both you and your spouse, their other parent.
You cannot put your children in the middle of your mess. When you make negative comments and speak badly about your former spouse to or around your children, you are simply creating instability and confusion in their lives. In short, you are putting them in the middle of your mess.
Your children are not the reason that you and your spouse broke up. However, they can be the worst victims of this difficult situation.
You can reduce many problems for your children in dealing with your separation or divorce by simply not making negative comments about your former spouse. You have to take the high road for the best interests of your children.
2. Pressuring Your Children to Make Difficult Decisions or Choices
You can’t force your children to make difficult decisions or choices when you’re getting separated or divorced. You must provide stability to your children.
When you suddenly tell your children that they must make critical decisions in their lives, you are putting them under intolerable pressure that will simply backfire on you.
You can’t ask your children to choose between you and the other parent. It’s simply not right. Your children love both you and their other parent.
3. Not Making Sure That Your Kids Know That They Did Not Cause Your Separation
You definitely need to make sure that your children know that they did not cause your separation or divorce.
Your children need to know that the adults are responsible for the separation or divorce.
Your children have enough stress and frustration to handle in your separation or divorce. You will significantly reduce this stress by ensuring that they truly understand that they are not blame for the separation or divorce in any way.
I will discuss the other 3 big mistakes you must avoid in telling your kids about your separation or divorce in the next video.
If you have any questions about your separation, divorce or family law case and you would like our help, feel free to contact on my Facebook law office page, that’s O’Malley Family Law, or call me at 905-434-8837 and I’ll point in you in the right direction.
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